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A scenario page for adults who genuinely want friendship and find the upkeep harder than the people around them seem to.
Wanting friendship and finding the maintenance hard is not contradiction. It is two true things at once.
The maintenance work of friendship asks for executive function: remembering to reply, remembering birthdays, remembering plans, keeping the relationship warm through small messages. Some adults find this part more expensive than the friendship itself.
Tell the friend honestly. Most close friendships can hold uneven reply speeds. Build a small system that supports the parts you find hard. Choose depth over breadth when the budget is tight.
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