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Why these often get confused, where they differ, and why telling them apart helps.
Rejection sensitivity and low self esteem can both produce strong reactions to perceived negative feedback. They are not the same.
Rejection sensitivity is largely about the volume and speed of the reaction. The trigger can be small and the alarm can be loud. Low self esteem is more about the underlying belief that one is not worthy of good things. The two can coexist. They are not the same.
Working with self esteem is largely about beliefs and patterns over time. Working with rejection sensitivity is largely about turning down a system level alarm. Both are valid. The methods that help them are different.
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Rejection sensitivity, explained without dramatising it
What rejection sensitivity means in everyday life, how it differs from ordinary disappointment, and why the intensity is not a character flaw.
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When small conflicts feel large
Why small disagreements can set off disproportionate emotional reactions, and how to think about the gap between what happened and what it felt like.
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I overthink small conflicts
A scenario page for adults whose reactions to small disagreements outlast the disagreement itself.
Everyday reflection pages
Replaying conversations afterwards
Why some adults replay conversations long after they end, what the pattern can mean, and how to be kinder to the part of your brain doing the replaying.
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