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Why some adults are a different version of themselves at work and at home, and what the gap usually means.
A different version of you at work and at home is not dishonesty. It is often what masking looks like across a whole week.
If the work version is calmer, more measured, more agreeable than the home version, the home version is often the one carrying the recovery for the work version. The gap is doing work. It deserves to be noticed.
You do not have to collapse the two versions. You can investigate where the gap lives, what it costs, and whether one or two small experiments in unmasking are safe to try. Slowly closing the gap is usually more useful than collapsing it.
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