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Why masking can become automatic, and why adults often only notice it after years.
Many adults realise they have been masking only after enough years have passed for the cost to become obvious. Here is why the pattern often runs invisibly.
Masking that started in childhood tends to become automatic. The adjustments happen at a level below conscious thought. The person experiences themselves as just being polite, just being professional, just getting through the day. Only when the cost adds up does the pattern become visible.
Suddenly realising you are different at home than at work. Finding it harder to maintain the version of you that other people meet. Becoming exhausted by interactions that used to feel fine. None of this means the masking was a flaw. It means the bill has come due.
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