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Why some adults rehearse conversations long before they happen and how to tell when the rehearsal is helping versus draining.
Some adults rehearse phone calls before making them, draft messages in their head before typing them, and run through difficult conversations several times before they happen. This is often called scripting. It can be useful. It can also be quietly expensive.
It reduces uncertainty. It lowers the in the moment cognitive load. It lets the conversation move at a familiar pace. For some adults it is the only way social interactions feel manageable. That is not a flaw. It is a coping strategy that mostly works.
When the rehearsal runs longer than the conversation. When it produces anxiety rather than confidence. When you avoid the conversation entirely because the script is not ready. When you arrive at the moment already exhausted from preparing for it.
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